26 Oct 2023 · 1 h 46 min
Books from Logan Ury
“The Love Expert: Why Women Are Addicted To F**k Boys & Why You Should "Have A 'Boring' Relationship Instead!" Logan Ury”
3 books mentioned
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The conversation
Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist and Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, discusses attachment theory, the psychology behind attraction to unavailable partners, and practical strategies for dating. The episode covers how to date like a scientist, overcome common dating pitfalls, and prioritize secure, long-term relationships over fleeting chemistry.
Talking points
- Attachment theory and anxious-avoidant loops
- Why people are drawn to 'fuckboys'
- The secretary problem in dating
- Three dating tendencies: romanticizer, maximizer, hesitator
- Dating like a scientist
- The importance of vulnerability
- Post-date eight checklist
- Choosing secure partners over sparks