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10 Sept 2026 · 2 h 27 min

Books from Vanessa Van Edwards

“Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People Unlikable”

3 books mentioned

  1. Cover of Conversation
    Guest's book

    Conversation

    by Vanessa Van Edwards

    Steven Bartlett · ▶ 00:01:30 · on 2 episodes

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  2. Cover of Cues
    Guest's book

    Cues

    by Vanessa Van Edwards

    Vanessa Van Edwards · ▶ 01:09:22 · on 3 episodes

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  3. Cover of Captivate
    Guest's book

    Captivate

    by Vanessa Van Edwards

    Vanessa Van Edwards · ▶ 01:09:22 · on 2 episodes

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The conversation

Behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards discusses the science of conversation, explaining how to move beyond small talk and build deeper connections. She covers the three levels of interaction, the pitfalls of social autopilot, and techniques like turn-taking and vocal tone to project warmth and competence.

Talking points

  • Three levels of conversation
  • Avoiding the autopilot trap in small talk
  • Mechanics of conversational turn-taking
  • Projecting warmth and competence through body language
  • Five story archetypes for understanding others
  • Signature questions to build connection
  • Graceful exit strategies from conversations
  • Vocal tone and eye contact for charisma