10 Sept 2026 · 2 h 27 min
Books from Vanessa Van Edwards
“Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People Unlikable”
3 books mentioned
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The conversation
Behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards discusses the science of conversation, explaining how to move beyond small talk and build deeper connections. She covers the three levels of interaction, the pitfalls of social autopilot, and techniques like turn-taking and vocal tone to project warmth and competence.
Talking points
- Three levels of conversation
- Avoiding the autopilot trap in small talk
- Mechanics of conversational turn-taking
- Projecting warmth and competence through body language
- Five story archetypes for understanding others
- Signature questions to build connection
- Graceful exit strategies from conversations
- Vocal tone and eye contact for charisma


